tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2182862650840932810.post5440997148280026441..comments2023-09-30T01:47:44.976-07:00Comments on ArenaMan: The Straight and Narrow – What Forgiveness Is (Part 3)David Carreonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11816955307668560061noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2182862650840932810.post-40237464768472428992012-05-05T17:05:57.278-07:002012-05-05T17:05:57.278-07:00Forgiveness is definitely messy. So is life. I won...Forgiveness is definitely messy. So is life. I wonder, I think forgiveness is the first act that opens the door for a relationship to proceed forward again. Reconciliation is the messy process of restoring healing and health to he relationship again. I think sometimes the 2 are confused, because you can forgive a person without being reconciled to them. Forgiveness can be one way, but reconciliation must involve 2. Forgiveness is like the "unlocking of horns"....when two male deer are in a fight and have their horns locked - no one is going to proceed until they unlock and step away from each other - I think forgiveness is like this...unlocking from the stalemate, giving something to someone "before" they have done anything to deserve or earn it....so as to give opportunity for the broken relationship to begin moving forward again into the healing stage.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2182862650840932810.post-5708033285096342882011-09-21T10:05:32.601-07:002011-09-21T10:05:32.601-07:00I like the analogies, the longer a wound festers, ...I like the analogies, the longer a wound festers, the greater the scarring. <br />The difficult part of forgiveness seems to be not what someone else did, but coming to terms with the nature of who they did it to. <br />Only in servitude, are we able to be made kings. Only in recognizing our own predicament, can we see the necessity of forgiveness.Tedmohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07314210773370418908noreply@blogger.com